Real Life Sex

1. My gender is: *This question is required.

• Female
• Male
• Non-binary alternative Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

2. My sexual orientation is:

• Straight
• Bisexual
• Gay
• Lesbian
• Asexual
• Other - Please explain Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

4. My relationship status is: *This question is required.

• Single
• In a relationship - not living together
• In a relationship - living together occasionally (long-distance, non-traditional)
• In a relationship - living together (eg. married, common law, etc)
• Other - Please explain Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

I have been in my relationship for:

• Less than 6 months
• 6 months - 1.5 years
• 1.5 - 3 years
• 4 - 6 years

• 7 - 9 years
• 10 - 12 years
• 13 - 15 years
• more than 15 years

I have been single for:

• Less than 6 months
• 6 months - 1.5 years
• 1.5 - 3 years
• 4 - 6 years

• 7 - 9 years
• 10 - 12 years
• 13 - 15 years
• more than 15 years

Overall, how satisfied or unsatisfied are you with your current relationship:

• Extremely satisfied
• More than satisfied
• Neither satisfied nor dissatisfied
• Less than satisfied
• Extremely unsatisfied

Overall, how satisfied or unsatisfied are you with being single:

• Extremely satisfied
• More than satisfied
• Neither satisfied nor dissatisfied
• Less than satisfied
• Extremely unsatisfied

5. The ethnicity I identify with is:

• Asian
• South Asian
• Black/African
• White/European
• Hispanic/Latino

• Indigenous or Native Indian
• Prefer not to answer
• Middle Eastern
• Other - Write In Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

6. How often did you have a drink containing alcohol in the past year?

• Never
• Monthly, or less
• 2 - 4 times per month
• 2 - 3 times per week
• 4 or more times per week

7. On days in the past year when you drank alcohol how many drinks did you typically drink?

• 0, 1, or 2
• 3 - 4
• 5 - 6
• 7 - 9
• 10 +

8. Thinking about the past year, how often have you had sex with a partner (whatever you and your partner think of as “sex”—for example, mutual masturbation, sex toy use, oral sex, vaginal sex, or anal sex)? (if you currently do not have a partner, consider the last relationship you have had)

• Once a day (or more)
• Almost every day (or equivalent)
• 2 - 3 times per week
• once a week
• a few times per month
• once a month
• a few times of the past year
• not at all

9. Thinking about the past year, about how often have you self-pleasured (masturbated) on your own?

• Once a day (or more)
• Almost every day (or equivalent)
• 2 - 3 times per week
• once a week
• a few times per month
• once a month
• a few times of the past year
• not at all

10. Thinking about the past year, how often did you feel desire or interest to be sexual with a partner?

• Almost every day (or equivalent)
• 2-3 times per week
• once a week
• a few times per month
• once a month
• a few times in the past year
• not at all

11. Thinking about the past year, how often did you feel desire or interest to be sexual on your own (self-pleasuring)?

• Almost every day (or equivalent)
• 2-3 times per week
• once a week
• a few times per month
• once a month
• a few times in the past year
• not at all

12. When you have sexual stimulation or intercourse with a partner, how often do you reach orgasm (climax)?

• I have never had an orgasm with my partner
• Rarely or almost never
• A few times
• Sometimes (about half the time)
• Most times
• Almost always or always
• No sexual activity with a partner

13. When you stimulate yourself sexually (masturbation), how often do you reach orgasm (climax)?

• I have never had an orgasm on my own
• Rarely or almost never
• A few times
• Sometimes (about half the time)
• Most times
• Almost always or always
• I do not masturbate

After having sex with my partner (whatever, "sex" means to you and your partner), how often do you masturbate to reach orgasm?

• Always or almost always
• Often
• About half of the time
• Rarely
• Never or almost never

How satisfied or unsatisfied are you with how well your partner knows what you want, like or need sexually (to feel pleasure/orgasm)?
 

• extremely satisfied
• mostly satisfied
• neither satisfied nor unsatisfied
• mostly unsatisfied
• extremely unsatisfied

14. Overall, how satisfied or unsatisfied are you with your present sex life?

• extremely unsatisfied
• somewhat unsatisfied
• neither satisfied or unsatisfied
• somewhat satisfied
• extremely satisfied

15. What are the main two reasons you would most likely choose to engage in sex with a partner over sex on your own (masturbation)? 
 

• to feel more pleasure
• to have an orgasm
• to feel someone wants/desires me
• to feel connected with my partner
• to please my partner
• to get more aroused (horny)
• to feel more fulfilled overall
• to avoid negative consequences
• Other - Write In Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

16. What are the main two reasons you would choose to self pleasure (masturbate) on your own (with a sex toy or your hand) rather than have sex with a partner?
 

• to feel more pleasure
• to have an orgasm
• to feel someone wants/desires me (in fantasy)
• to get more aroused (horny)
• to feel more fulfilled overall
• to be able to focus on my pleasure (over my partner's needs)
• to focus on my pleasure instead of how I might look/appear to my partner
• because my partner doesn't want sex
• to avoid negative consequences
• Other - Write In Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

17. Imagine you have an available partner, please choose how often you would prefer to engage in sex with a partner versus solo sex (with your hand/toy)?  *This question is required.

Space Cell	Solo most often	Solo more often	Equal	With partner more often	With partner most often
For highest level of excitement	For highest level of excitement: Solo most often	For highest level of excitement: Solo more often	For highest level of excitement: Equal	For highest level of excitement: With partner more often	For highest level of excitement: With partner most often
For pleasurable sensations	For pleasurable sensations: Solo most often	For pleasurable sensations: Solo more often	For pleasurable sensations: Equal	For pleasurable sensations: With partner more often	For pleasurable sensations: With partner most often
For ability to reach orgasm	For ability to reach orgasm: Solo most often	For ability to reach orgasm: Solo more often	For ability to reach orgasm: Equal	For ability to reach orgasm: With partner more often	For ability to reach orgasm: With partner most often
For a feeling of connection	For a feeling of connection: Solo most often	For a feeling of connection: Solo more often	For a feeling of connection: Equal	For a feeling of connection: With partner more often	For a feeling of connection: With partner most often
For highest overall enjoyment	For highest overall enjoyment: Solo most often	For highest overall enjoyment: Solo more often	For highest overall enjoyment: Equal	For highest overall enjoyment: With partner more often	For highest overall enjoyment: With partner most often

18. Please rate the following on how much you agree or disagree:
(if you are in a relationship, choose your current partner, and if you are not in a relationship, choose a past partner that most comes to mind)
 

Space Cell	strongly disagree	disagree	slightly disagree	neutral	slightly agree	agree	strongly agree
I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner.	I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner. : strongly disagree	I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner. : disagree	I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner. : slightly disagree	I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner. : neutral	I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner. : slightly agree	I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner. : agree	I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner. : strongly agree
I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.	I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.: strongly disagree	I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.: disagree	I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.: slightly disagree	I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.: neutral	I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.: slightly agree	I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.: agree	I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.: strongly agree
I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.	I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.: strongly disagree	I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.: disagree	I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.: slightly disagree	I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.: neutral	I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.: slightly agree	I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.: agree	I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.: strongly agree
I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.	I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.: strongly disagree	I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.: disagree	I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.: slightly disagree	I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.: neutral	I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.: slightly agree	I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.: agree	I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.: strongly agree

19. Please state the average amount of time you spend ‘on a typical day’ on the following activities:

Space Cell	Not at all	1 - 30 min	31 min-1 hr	1-2 hrs	3 hrs	4-5 hrs	6-8 hrs	8 + hrs
Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, etc)	Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, etc): Not at all	Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, etc): 1 - 30 min	Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, etc): 31 min-1 hr	Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, etc): 1-2 hrs	Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, etc): 3 hrs	Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, etc): 4-5 hrs	Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, etc): 6-8 hrs	Social media (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, etc): 8 + hrs
Video (YouTube, Netflix, etc)	Video (YouTube, Netflix, etc): Not at all	Video (YouTube, Netflix, etc): 1 - 30 min	Video (YouTube, Netflix, etc): 31 min-1 hr	Video (YouTube, Netflix, etc): 1-2 hrs	Video (YouTube, Netflix, etc): 3 hrs	Video (YouTube, Netflix, etc): 4-5 hrs	Video (YouTube, Netflix, etc): 6-8 hrs	Video (YouTube, Netflix, etc): 8 + hrs
Texting with other people	Texting with other people: Not at all	Texting with other people: 1 - 30 min	Texting with other people: 31 min-1 hr	Texting with other people: 1-2 hrs	Texting with other people: 3 hrs	Texting with other people: 4-5 hrs	Texting with other people: 6-8 hrs	Texting with other people: 8 + hrs
Video games	Video games: Not at all	Video games: 1 - 30 min	Video games: 31 min-1 hr	Video games: 1-2 hrs	Video games: 3 hrs	Video games: 4-5 hrs	Video games: 6-8 hrs	Video games: 8 + hrs

20. On average in the last three months, how many times did you watch pornography?

• never
• rarely
• once in a while
• once a week
• every 2 - 3 days
• once a day
• a few times per day
• many times per day

21. How would you prefer a lover approach you for sex? I get most turned-on if my lover: *This question is required.Think about how you start getting aroused --- transitioning from your day-to-day reality toward your erotic-reality. How would you like your partner to approach you. If you do not have a partner, imagine the best scenario for you.

Space Cell	Not sexy	A little sexy	Somewhat sexy	Very sexy	Extremely sexy
Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything)	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything) : Not sexy	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything) : A little sexy	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything) : Somewhat sexy	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything) : Very sexy	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything) : Extremely sexy
'Takes charge' of the situation	'Takes charge' of the situation: Not sexy	'Takes charge' of the situation: A little sexy	'Takes charge' of the situation: Somewhat sexy	'Takes charge' of the situation: Very sexy	'Takes charge' of the situation: Extremely sexy
Is urgent or passionate	Is urgent or passionate: Not sexy	Is urgent or passionate: A little sexy	Is urgent or passionate: Somewhat sexy	Is urgent or passionate: Very sexy	Is urgent or passionate: Extremely sexy
Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts)	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): Not sexy	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): A little sexy	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): Somewhat sexy	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): Very sexy	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): Extremely sexy
Arranges a romantic dinner/event	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: Not sexy	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: A little sexy	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: Somewhat sexy	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: Very sexy	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: Extremely sexy
Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: Not sexy	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: A little sexy	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: Somewhat sexy	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: Very sexy	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: Extremely sexy
Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: Not sexy	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: A little sexy	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: Somewhat sexy	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: Very sexy	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: Extremely sexy
Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge"	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": Not sexy	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": A little sexy	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": Somewhat sexy	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": Very sexy	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": Extremely sexy
Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: Not sexy	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: A little sexy	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: Somewhat sexy	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: Very sexy	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: Extremely sexy
Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: Not sexy	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: A little sexy	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: Somewhat sexy	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: Very sexy	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: Extremely sexy
Demands that they have me...immediately	Demands that they have me...immediately : Not sexy	Demands that they have me...immediately : A little sexy	Demands that they have me...immediately : Somewhat sexy	Demands that they have me...immediately : Very sexy	Demands that they have me...immediately : Extremely sexy
Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: Not sexy	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: A little sexy	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: Somewhat sexy	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: Very sexy	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: Extremely sexy
I would like to be the one to initiate sex	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: Not sexy	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: A little sexy	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: Somewhat sexy	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: Very sexy	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: Extremely sexy