Initiation Turn-On Preference & Sexual Parts Questionnaire

Fill out this short survey and receive your Sexual Initiation Style immediately!

This survey is anonymous and confidential (see our privacy statement) and should take approximately 9-13 minutes to complete. The questionnaire has approximately 23 questions that cover your sexual preferences and experiences. Feel free to check it out, knowing that at any point you can discontinue without consequence. If you have any questions or comments about this survey please contact Dr. Zebroff at info@artofconnection.org.

You must be 18 to participate. By completing the survey you are agreeing to participate in furthering our understanding of human sexuality.

* This test works best on a desktop, laptop or tablet.

1. Email: (Your email address is not required, but handy if you want your results emailed to you) This question requires a valid email address.

2. My gender is: *This question is required.

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

3. My sexual orientation is:

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

5. My relationship status is:

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

I have been in my relationship for:

I would rate the general satisfaction of my relationship as:

6. The race or ethnicity I identify with is:

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

7. Please mark whether the following are true for you or not.

When it comes to how I relate to others:

Space Cell	No	Sometimes	Yes
Often, I want to merge completely with another person	Often, I want to merge completely with another person: No	Often, I want to merge completely with another person: Sometimes	Often, I want to merge completely with another person: Yes
I find it relatively easy to get close to others	I find it relatively easy to get close to others: No	I find it relatively easy to get close to others: Sometimes	I find it relatively easy to get close to others: Yes
Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being	Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being: No	Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being: Sometimes	Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being: Yes

8. Over the past 4 weeks, how often did you have desire for sexual activity? (Interest in engaging in any sexual behavior with another person)

9. Overall, how satisfactory or unsatisfactory is your present sex life?

10. Think of a time when sex didn't go well, when something went 'wrong' before, during or after sex.
At the time, the overall thought or feeling was:

11. Think of a time when sex didn't go well, when something went 'wrong' during sex. The strategies I used to cope with the feelings/thoughts I had, included:

Space Cell	No	A little bit	Yes
I laughed with my partner	I laughed with my partner: No	I laughed with my partner: A little bit	I laughed with my partner: Yes
I talked with my partner about it with what happened	I talked with my partner about it with what happened: No	I talked with my partner about it with what happened: A little bit	I talked with my partner about it with what happened: Yes
I got quiet or kept my feelings to myself	I got quiet or kept my feelings to myself: No	I got quiet or kept my feelings to myself: A little bit	I got quiet or kept my feelings to myself: Yes
I criticized my partner or showed irritation or anger	I criticized my partner or showed irritation or anger: No	I criticized my partner or showed irritation or anger: A little bit	I criticized my partner or showed irritation or anger: Yes
I apologized to my partner for what happened	I apologized to my partner for what happened: No	I apologized to my partner for what happened: A little bit	I apologized to my partner for what happened: Yes
I started to cry or show how upset I was	I started to cry or show how upset I was: No	I started to cry or show how upset I was: A little bit	I started to cry or show how upset I was: Yes
Enter another option	Other: No	Other: A little bit	Other: Yes

12. Think back over all your sexual encounters with other people. Allow your mind to focus on two specific encounters that were among the most arousing of your entire life. Describe each of them in as as much detail as you wish.

13. Choose one of these experiences (the one that stands out most to you). What do you think made this encounter so exciting? (It wouldn't have been the same without it)

14. How much of each element do you think made these encounters so exciting?

Space Cell	Not exciting	A little bit exciting	Exciting	Very exciting	Extremely exciting
how I could be innocent (eg. a "good" girl/boy)	how I could be innocent (eg. a "good" girl/boy): Not exciting	how I could be innocent (eg. a "good" girl/boy): A little bit exciting	how I could be innocent (eg. a "good" girl/boy): Exciting	how I could be innocent (eg. a "good" girl/boy): Very exciting	how I could be innocent (eg. a "good" girl/boy): Extremely exciting
how I could be a "bad" girl/boy	how I could be a "bad" girl/boy: Not exciting	how I could be a "bad" girl/boy: A little bit exciting	how I could be a "bad" girl/boy: Exciting	how I could be a "bad" girl/boy: Very exciting	how I could be a "bad" girl/boy: Extremely exciting
how I could engage in what is taboo, risky or forbidden	how I could engage in what is taboo, risky or forbidden: Not exciting	how I could engage in what is taboo, risky or forbidden: A little bit exciting	how I could engage in what is taboo, risky or forbidden: Exciting	how I could engage in what is taboo, risky or forbidden: Very exciting	how I could engage in what is taboo, risky or forbidden: Extremely exciting
how I could engage in what felt known or safe	how I could engage in what felt known or safe: Not exciting	how I could engage in what felt known or safe: A little bit exciting	how I could engage in what felt known or safe: Exciting	how I could engage in what felt known or safe: Very exciting	how I could engage in what felt known or safe: Extremely exciting
how I felt "in charge" and could determine what was going to happen next	how I felt "in charge" and could determine what was going to happen next: Not exciting	how I felt "in charge" and could determine what was going to happen next: A little bit exciting	how I felt "in charge" and could determine what was going to happen next: Exciting	how I felt "in charge" and could determine what was going to happen next: Very exciting	how I felt "in charge" and could determine what was going to happen next: Extremely exciting
how I could let go and surrender to the experience (or lover)	how I could let go and surrender to the experience (or lover): Not exciting	how I could let go and surrender to the experience (or lover): A little bit exciting	how I could let go and surrender to the experience (or lover): Exciting	how I could let go and surrender to the experience (or lover): Very exciting	how I could let go and surrender to the experience (or lover): Extremely exciting
how I was finally able to connect with a lover I had yearned for	how I was finally able to connect with a lover I had yearned for: Not exciting	how I was finally able to connect with a lover I had yearned for: A little bit exciting	how I was finally able to connect with a lover I had yearned for: Exciting	how I was finally able to connect with a lover I had yearned for: Very exciting	how I was finally able to connect with a lover I had yearned for: Extremely exciting
how I was able to enjoy an encounter that I had been anticipating	how I was able to enjoy an encounter that I had been anticipating: Not exciting	how I was able to enjoy an encounter that I had been anticipating: A little bit exciting	how I was able to enjoy an encounter that I had been anticipating: Exciting	how I was able to enjoy an encounter that I had been anticipating: Very exciting	how I was able to enjoy an encounter that I had been anticipating: Extremely exciting
how close and connected I felt to my lover	how close and connected I felt to my lover: Not exciting	how close and connected I felt to my lover: A little bit exciting	how close and connected I felt to my lover: Exciting	how close and connected I felt to my lover: Very exciting	how close and connected I felt to my lover: Extremely exciting
how I could think about and interact with my lover as a whole person	how I could think about and interact with my lover as a whole person: Not exciting	how I could think about and interact with my lover as a whole person: A little bit exciting	how I could think about and interact with my lover as a whole person: Exciting	how I could think about and interact with my lover as a whole person: Very exciting	how I could think about and interact with my lover as a whole person: Extremely exciting
how I could focus on a particular aspect of my body or my lover's body	how I could focus on a particular aspect of my body or my lover's body: Not exciting	how I could focus on a particular aspect of my body or my lover's body: A little bit exciting	how I could focus on a particular aspect of my body or my lover's body: Exciting	how I could focus on a particular aspect of my body or my lover's body: Very exciting	how I could focus on a particular aspect of my body or my lover's body: Extremely exciting
how I felt free to do my own thing, without worrying about my lover	how I felt free to do my own thing, without worrying about my lover: Not exciting	how I felt free to do my own thing, without worrying about my lover: A little bit exciting	how I felt free to do my own thing, without worrying about my lover: Exciting	how I felt free to do my own thing, without worrying about my lover: Very exciting	how I felt free to do my own thing, without worrying about my lover: Extremely exciting
how I could please my lover	how I could please my lover: Not exciting	how I could please my lover: A little bit exciting	how I could please my lover: Exciting	how I could please my lover: Very exciting	how I could please my lover: Extremely exciting
Enter another option	Other: Not exciting	Other: A little bit exciting	Other: Exciting	Other: Very exciting	Other: Extremely exciting

15. Choose the top fantasy(s) that would be the biggest turn on to you. *This question is required.(Choose 2 answers. If you do not find exactly your fantasy, please choose the closest to your experience.)

16. There are certain things I would like sexually with my current (or past) partner, but the reason(s) I won't try for them is because:
(if you are in a relationship, choose your current partner, and if you are not in a relationship, choose a past partner that most comes to mind)

17. The approach I tend to use to get the most out of a sexual experience is:

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

18. When I think about my sexuality, the aspect of myself that I would like to come out more in sex would be _________________.

19. How would you prefer a lover approach you for sex? I get most turned-on if my lover: *This question is required.Think about how you start getting aroused --- transitioning from your day-to-day reality toward your erotic-reality. How would you like your partner to approach you. If you do not have a partner, imagine the best scenario for you.

Space Cell	Not sexy	A little sexy	Somewhat sexy	Very sexy	Extremely sexy
'Takes charge' of the situation	'Takes charge' of the situation: Not sexy	'Takes charge' of the situation: A little sexy	'Takes charge' of the situation: Somewhat sexy	'Takes charge' of the situation: Very sexy	'Takes charge' of the situation: Extremely sexy
Pushes me against a wall or bed	Pushes me against a wall or bed: Not sexy	Pushes me against a wall or bed: A little sexy	Pushes me against a wall or bed: Somewhat sexy	Pushes me against a wall or bed: Very sexy	Pushes me against a wall or bed: Extremely sexy
Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything)	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything): Not sexy	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything): A little sexy	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything): Somewhat sexy	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything): Very sexy	Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything): Extremely sexy
Gives me deep (tongue), passionate kisses	Gives me deep (tongue), passionate kisses: Not sexy	Gives me deep (tongue), passionate kisses: A little sexy	Gives me deep (tongue), passionate kisses: Somewhat sexy	Gives me deep (tongue), passionate kisses: Very sexy	Gives me deep (tongue), passionate kisses: Extremely sexy
Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts)	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): Not sexy	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): A little sexy	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): Somewhat sexy	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): Very sexy	Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts): Extremely sexy
Is rough or forceful (in play)	Is rough or forceful (in play): Not sexy	Is rough or forceful (in play): A little sexy	Is rough or forceful (in play): Somewhat sexy	Is rough or forceful (in play): Very sexy	Is rough or forceful (in play): Extremely sexy
Kisses or caresses my neck	Kisses or caresses my neck: Not sexy	Kisses or caresses my neck: A little sexy	Kisses or caresses my neck: Somewhat sexy	Kisses or caresses my neck: Very sexy	Kisses or caresses my neck: Extremely sexy
Is urgent or passionate	Is urgent or passionate: Not sexy	Is urgent or passionate: A little sexy	Is urgent or passionate: Somewhat sexy	Is urgent or passionate: Very sexy	Is urgent or passionate: Extremely sexy
Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: Not sexy	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: A little sexy	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: Somewhat sexy	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: Very sexy	Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day: Extremely sexy
Arranges a romantic dinner/event	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: Not sexy	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: A little sexy	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: Somewhat sexy	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: Very sexy	Arranges a romantic dinner/event: Extremely sexy
Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: Not sexy	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: A little sexy	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: Somewhat sexy	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: Very sexy	Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together: Extremely sexy
Sends me or shows me sexy pics	Sends me or shows me sexy pics: Not sexy	Sends me or shows me sexy pics: A little sexy	Sends me or shows me sexy pics: Somewhat sexy	Sends me or shows me sexy pics: Very sexy	Sends me or shows me sexy pics: Extremely sexy
Makes me laugh or laughs easily	Makes me laugh or laughs easily: Not sexy	Makes me laugh or laughs easily: A little sexy	Makes me laugh or laughs easily: Somewhat sexy	Makes me laugh or laughs easily: Very sexy	Makes me laugh or laughs easily: Extremely sexy
Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge"	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": Not sexy	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": A little sexy	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": Somewhat sexy	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": Very sexy	Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge": Extremely sexy
Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: Not sexy	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: A little sexy	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: Somewhat sexy	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: Very sexy	Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say: Extremely sexy
Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: Not sexy	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: A little sexy	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: Somewhat sexy	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: Very sexy	Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin: Extremely sexy
Does something genuinely caring or thoughtful	Does something genuinely caring or thoughtful: Not sexy	Does something genuinely caring or thoughtful: A little sexy	Does something genuinely caring or thoughtful: Somewhat sexy	Does something genuinely caring or thoughtful: Very sexy	Does something genuinely caring or thoughtful: Extremely sexy
Clears time and space to enjoy each other	Clears time and space to enjoy each other: Not sexy	Clears time and space to enjoy each other: A little sexy	Clears time and space to enjoy each other: Somewhat sexy	Clears time and space to enjoy each other: Very sexy	Clears time and space to enjoy each other: Extremely sexy
Engages in an emotional or romantic conversation	Engages in an emotional or romantic conversation: Not sexy	Engages in an emotional or romantic conversation: A little sexy	Engages in an emotional or romantic conversation: Somewhat sexy	Engages in an emotional or romantic conversation: Very sexy	Engages in an emotional or romantic conversation: Extremely sexy
Act submissive or respond to my commands (in play)	Act submissive or respond to my commands (in play): Not sexy	Act submissive or respond to my commands (in play): A little sexy	Act submissive or respond to my commands (in play): Somewhat sexy	Act submissive or respond to my commands (in play): Very sexy	Act submissive or respond to my commands (in play): Extremely sexy
Teases me with seductive language or gestures	Teases me with seductive language or gestures: Not sexy	Teases me with seductive language or gestures: A little sexy	Teases me with seductive language or gestures: Somewhat sexy	Teases me with seductive language or gestures: Very sexy	Teases me with seductive language or gestures: Extremely sexy
Demands that they have me...immediately	Demands that they have me...immediately: Not sexy	Demands that they have me...immediately: A little sexy	Demands that they have me...immediately: Somewhat sexy	Demands that they have me...immediately: Very sexy	Demands that they have me...immediately: Extremely sexy
Undresses me	Undresses me: Not sexy	Undresses me: A little sexy	Undresses me: Somewhat sexy	Undresses me: Very sexy	Undresses me: Extremely sexy
Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: Not sexy	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: A little sexy	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: Somewhat sexy	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: Very sexy	Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch: Extremely sexy
Invites me or leads me into the bedroom	Invites me or leads me into the bedroom: Not sexy	Invites me or leads me into the bedroom: A little sexy	Invites me or leads me into the bedroom: Somewhat sexy	Invites me or leads me into the bedroom: Very sexy	Invites me or leads me into the bedroom: Extremely sexy
Touches my back or buttocks	Touches my back or buttocks: Not sexy	Touches my back or buttocks: A little sexy	Touches my back or buttocks: Somewhat sexy	Touches my back or buttocks: Very sexy	Touches my back or buttocks: Extremely sexy
I would like to be the one to initiate sex	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: Not sexy	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: A little sexy	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: Somewhat sexy	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: Very sexy	I would like to be the one to initiate sex: Extremely sexy